Friday, September 12, 2008

Echolocation

It was written from another’s perspective. A recollection of a conversation turned first person. Expensive, anti-climactic words ringing in my ears with an unrelenting need to, once again, find voice. In reverse, they became a bit of guilt unfurled to reveal how my selfish needs superseded best interest. Recall that I held on too long, to that room, to that moment.

“Just say it, say it already”

“I don’t.”

As painful as it may have been to hear it rephrased in that manner, I never meant to be cruel. And now, when the melody of the moment presents itself, I am reminded to never again make that mistake. Although ironically, it was only after repeated cost that it became my lesson. I hope it has become yours, as well.


p.s. volumes like breadcrumbs lead back.

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Anonymous said...

People who don't at least try to defend themselves are victims. K refuses to be a victim. I admire that.

Anonymous said...

awful and terrible--because I don't kowtow to people who harass me, people I know I can't change--then I'm evil. ^_^ And awful and terrible. :D




and thats what makes kapunua, kapunua ( which i wouldn't change)

farawaysoclose said...

FASC, we do get it! I have all the episodes on tape. That show was brilliant!

"Oh that does suit Madame!" :D


haha i can't believe you get that show! that is so very very english!! excellent!

i am listening to your dad sing now K! great voice! how old was he when he sang this? very impressive!

farawaysoclose said...

I always think that if I ever had enough money, I would start a charity that would send people to self defense classes, and I would call it, "Walk Without Fear."

sounds great! i know i wouldn't stand a chance! i can scream and kick but i know i wouldn't stand a chance against a guy!

Anonymous said...

Guys, thank you. ^_^ You are being so kind. :D

FASC, my Da is a brilliant singer and songwriter. He was also a professional boxer and regional champion, and eventually a police officer. :D

Anonymous said...

Oh gosh, when he recorded that, let's see. It was around '81 I think, and my Da is 76? I'm not very mathy. O_o

Anonymous said...

While I stand by my earlier comment, I can understand and respect your decision to not give your respect to those who continually disrespect you. Speaking from personal experience, I am painfully aware there are times when someone will go too far and cross the line.

Exploiting the death of your dog to try and kick you when you were down was cowardly and unforgivable. A person capable of such cruelty, whose intention was to deliberately inflict pain while you were no doubt still grieving, is not deserving of respect. I can only imagine how that must have made you feel.

Anonymous said...

Gosh, I should read the whole thing before getting excited and replying. FASC, if I could do self defense, you surely could. I'm so debilitated it isn't even true. The great thing about Kung Fu is that it isn't physique, it's physics. With a little bit of forethought and the knowledge of how weight shifts work, you could throw someone three times your size with minimal effort. And your body is covered in weapons once you know how to use them. Fists, fingers, knees; all of these incredible things you can swing around to keep others from hurting you. It's amazing.

farawaysoclose said...

late 40's then! cool K!

thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

4:12, thank you so much for this understanding. I know I sound like a big emo sissy, but thoughts of my dog still make me cry. I was thinking about her yesterday when I went to pick up my other two dogs, and it's just not the same. Anyway, thank you for your kindness.

Anonymous said...

In fact, in general, thank you for your kindness.

elena said...

Damn no speakers on the computer. I will listen when I get home K.

Only one more thing to say and then back to my 450 comics. Man, I'm having fun going through the box...

No, it's not your job to make people like you. If it really doesn't matter to you one way or the other than that's fine. But if you want to understand why..if you realize that there may be a reason that could change the situation... then it kinda is your job. Maybe the reason goes much deeper than just not liking you - period. Maybe there is a whole lot of things that do into it. And maybe someone who was once an enemy could become a great friend. If only 'understanding' came into play.

farawaysoclose said...

Gosh, I should read the whole thing before getting excited and replying.

haha well that is such a ME thing to do!! always excitable!

re the self defense though, it's something i have thought of. i just know i'm fucked (possibly literally) if some guy attacks me. not that i live in a shitty area, but there are shitty people anywhere!

farawaysoclose said...

hey elena!!

i will be in touich i promise!

take care and enjoy the comics!

farawaysoclose said...

touich = touch!

i saw that i was publishing but it was just too damn late!!!!

Anonymous said...

Your Dad really wrote that song?

Anonymous said...

fake ass Elvis

Anonymous said...

Let me know when you do listen, Elena. :) He's pretty fly.

But if you want to understand why..if you realize that there may be a reason that could change the situation... then it kinda is your job. Maybe the reason goes much deeper than just not liking you - period. Maybe there is a whole lot of things that do into it.

And I'll be perfectly honest: It's just not for me to dig deeper into those people. Maybe it sounds mean to say it, but I'm not too interested in what motivates them. I didn't really come here to make friends. I'm so glad of the ones I did make, but I really, honestly and truly don't require those people to like me. I don't really need to understand their hatred of me or their need to try to ruin something nice. It's not Mayo's job, it's not mine. It's their job to figure it out. I just don't feel the need to understand their motives or to change them. I doubt if I could anyway. It's better to just not deal with them.

FASC said:

i just know i'm fucked (possibly literally) if some guy attacks me.

Oh man, I wish you didn't feel that way! There are so many ways to fight, and to not be afraid. I wish everyone could do it. :)

Anonymous said...

elena,

your sentiments are admirable, but not always practical. as someone who has spent years volunteering in youth programs trying to help these kids who bully one another, i can tell you that often the problems are deep-seated and long lasting. it usually takes so much more than a single person reaching out to help those kids, most of whom are dealing with issues that we can only imagine.

Anonymous said...

Elvis recorded the song, but my Dad actually wrote it. He was recording in the same studio as Presley for a while and my Dad used to be really careless. He left his music lying around and moved on. Presley's people picked it up, saw no credits on it, and ran with it.

But if that hadn't happened, who knows that I would even be sitting here today. O_O

farawaysoclose said...

Oh man, I wish you didn't feel that way! There are so many ways to fight, and to not be afraid. I wish everyone could do it. :)

it's something i have thought about for years.

just another thing i never got round to doing. maybe i should make a point of doing something like that with my kids.

farawaysoclose said...

K i am a very gullible person! are you joking??

Anonymous said...

FASC, that's a cool idea. I know a lot of families who all train where I train. The kids go first and then the adults go in. Most of the time, the kids do better. O_o

And some of the time Sifu just watches me and I can see him facepalming because I can be a huge spazz sometimes. But then I'll get it right, or do something perfectly, and the feeling is great.

Anonymous said...

About "Trouble?" Nope, that is a true story. That's kinda why I've always sorta disliked Elvis. He stoleded my Dad's song. >_< But things worked out anyway. :)

Anonymous said...

First anon 4:05,

I believe that another way someone can refuse to become a "victim" is to completely ignore what one vindictive anon may say about them.

Many cruel anons thrive on a "victim's" response to their low attacks, or as I call it, egging them on.

farawaysoclose said...

But things worked out anyway. :)

i guess what will be will be and all that shit!

hello BC!

elena said...

anon at 4:25

I realize what you are saying is true. But every journey begins with a single step. If I can be the start of something that will begin to help someone then that's what I want to do.

Anonymous said...

Troofax, FASC. ^_^

elena said...

Hey BC

How's it going?

Anonymous said...

I believe that another way someone can refuse to become a "victim" is to completely ignore what one vindictive anon may say about them.

I wasn't referring to defending oneself on a blog, BC, but in real life.

farawaysoclose said...

hey guys!

gotta go and be somewhere else.

lovely actually spending time with some folk on here. it's been a while.

take care everyone.

mayo and SS you too!

love to you all!

Anonymous said...

Love to you too, FASC! Good talking with you as always. It's nice when you can sit and chat for a while. :D

I'm going to go make some yummy dinner. I have a new recipe in mind and I want to try it out tonight. Then I'm gonna dye my hair and probably come back on here 'cause I'm bored. :D

elena said...

Talk to you later, FASC

I've gotta get back to reading comics. I mean sorting the comics. yeah, that's what I mean. LOL

Anonymous said...

Hi and bye fasc, elena.

See you guys later.

Ok 4:05. Sorry

Anonymous said...

Hi Errbody! *waves*

I see you lurking, DeWees my main squeeze! *waves*

Anonymous said...

You're so crazy! You're so crazy! You're so crazy! Enough in a way that I'll probably say you destroyed me!!!

Bert,fuck my ass, NOW! fuck my ass,NOW!
Choke me, choke me, choke...

Anonymous said...

Wanna know the truth about Mikey and Alicia?

"Some things won't go away"

And, She shared the love

Anonymous said...

Whoa Bert settle down.

Anonymous said...

The general consensus was this

Anonymous said...

Wanna know the truth




rumours are not the truth

Anonymous said...

I've had practically the same things happen to me growing up.
Alot of people have had similar experiences. When I tried to talk to K, she's always been nasty and I can understand where it comes from especially here to a point. I have tried too many times. I gave up trying.I know all too well what it is like to go into defense mode, sometimes too quickly.
She has spoken to me here and there as an anon. Which is surprising because I am the same person. I don't say anything now, mean or nice. I don't like when people get on her case like they do. They get disgusting.
I can't control what others do. Maybe they were burned by her in some way, maybe what they say is true. I don't know what to believe. I have never wished her or anyone else any harm.

Elena, (St. Elena) I wish my experiences turned out like yours, with the girl who bothered you.
Unfortunately, it doesn't always work out for the better.
When I was in high school, I stopped people from bullying other people. (not proud of this part but I learned to defend myself to fight and do what I had to, to survive. to kick anyones ass that tried to bust it) haha, that sounds funny. I understand why you say the things you do and how I see myself smiling and agreeing with things you have said. Advice you may have given. You are certainly not stupid that's for sure. You try to be fair and kind as whenever possible.

Whatever, enough of my rant. Have a good evening blog believers.

Anonymous said...

Also Alicia is a big fucking bitch who uses fans

Anonymous said...

She was only confirming the "rumor".

Anonymous said...

Also Alicia is a big fucking bitch




what is she doing now? confirming alicia is a bitch?

Anonymous said...

Oh well, if you're too lazy to click....

Anonymous said...

Hi Mel, BI, ALie, whoever you are today.

Anonymous said...

Lazy ass Miss E

Anonymous said...

Ah there can be another theory, Miss E was Mel anon, Alie BI this whole time.

Anonymous said...

Hi Mel, BI, ALie, whoever you are today




don't forget steffanie

Anonymous said...

or was that her .. TWIN?

Anonymous said...

LOL stupid ass.

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad I'm not involved with anyone in a band.

Too much pretentious nonsense.

Anonymous said...

Whatever happened to Tink?

Anonymous said...

Hopefully in a padded room.

Anonymous said...

Hi, LucyBean! How are ya?

It's definitely Autumn. I'm dying my hair back to black. ^_^

Anonymous said...

waiting for gerard to save her...

Anonymous said...

ZOID WAS WRITTEN FOR ME!!1!

Anonymous said...

6:06,

Who knows? To be honest, I think no one here cared.

Hi lucy.

Anonymous said...

BC you came back to visit!

Anonymous said...

Mel, BI, and Alie are WMHB

Worlds Most Hated Bloggers

Anonymous said...

and the sharpied messages at pr were for her to....did she think the marks of love were for her?

Anonymous said...

Speaking of people thinking sharpie messages were for her.

HI BC!

Anonymous said...

the marks of love were for Skanksey Ballato.

Anonymous said...

Whoa. same old, same old i guess

Anonymous said...

Autumn is here and i dont like, dont want it yet. Frost and cold in the morning when you have to go to work. It sucks. it does

Anonymous said...

Autumn for the win, anon.

Anonymous said...

Watch the oil prices soar as soon as it gets cold. bam! they are there to rip you off. watch the gas prices this winter. pigs! every last one of them

Anonymous said...

and when you get up it's cold and you have to warm up the house and then go back outside in the cold to warm up your car

Anonymous said...

As of now I'm down straight up

And I can turn to the box for some peace

Or a box for a piece or a box for a smoke
But they're all going to choke me

As of now I'm down straight up

And I can turn to the box for some peace

Or a box for a piece or a box for a smoke
But they're all going to choke me

You're
so crazy,
You'resocrazy,
You're
so crazy,
Enough in a way that I'll probably say you destroyed me


It's like a fucking drug deal
I'm sitting here waiting
I'm calling you back
and you won't call me back
and it's fucking fucked up,
but at the same time it
just made me want you even worse.

For a while I was cleaner than now
Then I started to destroy myself
With things that I love now the things that I hate
'til it finally broke me

You're
so crazy,
You'resocrazy,
You're
so crazy,
Enough in a way that I'll probably say you destroyed me

Bert!
fuck my ass,
NOW!
fuck my ass,
NOW!
Choke me
choke me
choke me
choke me

As of now I'm down straight up

And I can turn to the box for some peace

Or a box for a piece or a box for a smoke
But they're all going to choke me

You're
so crazy,
You'resocrazy,
You're
so crazy,
Enough in a way that I'll probably say you destroyed me

Anonymous said...

Amy, where are you hiding my lilly white lovely? hmm??

Anonymous said...

what's with the Bert lyrics?

Anonymous said...

Again.

Anonymous said...

Do you all enjoy making a mockery of someone else's blog?
Hope you are happy. Wait no, most cant be and misery loves company donchya know

Anonymous said...

Who's?

Anonymous said...

Mayo we need a new post bitch.

Anonymous said...

where?

Anonymous said...

when?

Anonymous said...

Clay Aiken just announced that he is gay and his baby looks just like him.

Anonymous said...

you called Mayo a bitch?
naughty ass. bitch slaps anon who callin Mayo a bitch take that

Anonymous said...

why?

Anonymous said...

do you all pms at once or what? lol

Anonymous said...

Mayo you need to ignore the impatient bitches.

Anonymous said...

Clay Aiken just announced that he is gay


like everyone didnt already know

Anonymous said...

Geee who is next to come out??

Anonymous said...

Mayo probably bitch slaps his dong every night.

Anonymous said...

perez hilton LOL!

Anonymous said...

Geee who is next to come out??

Anonymous said...

his poor dong

Anonymous said...

Gee..i dont know...maybe he is WAYting for his grand entrance!!

Anonymous said...

LOL yes.

Anonymous said...

maybe he will come out of the closet dressed as liza...jazz hands everyone!!

Anonymous said...

About Bob being at HOB in Chicago.

"he ran onstage during reggie to put some water up and James dedicated a song to him! and then we saw him drive away."

For those saying he wasn't at the show because of his writsts.
Yes, Gerard is still the only one that didn't go.

Anonymous said...

About Bob being at HOB in Chicago.

"he ran onstage during reggie to put some water up and James dedicated a song to him! and then we saw him drive away."

For those saying he wasn't at the show because of his writsts.
Yes, Gerard is still the only one that didn't go

Anonymous said...

Yes, Gerard is still the only one that didn't go.

September 23, 2008 6:44 PM



That is because he is still hiding in the closet!

Anonymous said...

he is to busy supporting his crotch showing wife and his new best friends. BFF!

Anonymous said...

6:20,

not everyone likes autumn, that's okay, but there is beauty that comes with the season, such as halloween, the changing of the leave colors, the fact that the mosquitos will be gone(A blessing, if I do say so myself) etc.

6:13,

yes I am here, but I'm also lurking at Itunes. Hello there.

Hello first anon 6:16

Anonymous said...

*shakes head*

Anonymous said...

Does anyone else think that Clay Aiken looks like a grown up version of Chucky?

Anonymous said...

LOL BC, LOL. You poor thing.

Anonymous said...

Im with you bc, i get a little excited around halloween, and i agree about the blood sucker, they have been bad this year!

Anonymous said...

Does anyone else think that Clay Aiken looks like a grown up version of Chucky?

Yes scary isn't it!

Anonymous said...

great! cant get gas in south U.S.
blame a hurricane. blame this blame that. what a crock. i am pissed off at the "real world" issues. homes being forclosed on at staggering numbers. banks going under having the gov't bail them out? what happens when a regular person over extends themselves with debt? they try and make you feel like shit. its all okay when big companies do it. eh!
none of this matters. a blog? yelling at each other. fucking each other over to see who looks better? for who? for what? who cares?
aint gonna be long for this world little eva

out

Anonymous said...

They have TS. I just hate the little bastards. It's good to see you. How are you?

Anonymous said...

I LOVE HALLOWEEN! yes, i shouted cause i do, like alot! dont like the cold weather but I love the fall :)

Twisted Sister said...

what happens when a regular person over extends themselves with debt?

thats me a regular person living paycheck to paycheck...

Anonymous said...

You scare me, anon.

Twisted Sister said...

I'm good bc, long time no see. Hows life treating you?

Anonymous said...

His eyebrows creep me out TS, and especially the red hair.

Twisted Sister said...

great! cant get gas in south U.S.
blame a hurricane. blame this blame that. what a crock. i am pissed off at the "real world" issues. homes being forclosed on at staggering numbers. banks going under having the gov't bail them out? what happens when a regular person over extends themselves with debt? they try and make you feel like shit. its all okay when big companies do it. eh!
none of this matters. a blog? yelling at each other. fucking each other over to see who looks better? for who? for what? who cares?
aint gonna be long for this world little eva

out



i would say you are not in a good mood. Cheer up it
is not that bad!

Anonymous said...

6:58,

Yes!

TS, that's good. I'm good, just a bit of a headache though.

Twisted Sister said...

I guess he wouldn't have to dress up for halloween! LOL!

Twisted Sister said...

Headaches suck! Take an asprin and get rid of that mother!

Anonymous said...

ts what happens if you didnt have that paycheck anymore and dont live with mommy and daddy

thats whats scary fo real

Twisted Sister said...

ts what happens if you didnt have that paycheck anymore and dont live with mommy and daddy




Shit im 42 yrs old, i havent lived with my mommy in years! And your right it is scary!!

Anonymous said...

i was making dinner, ate and cleaned up the dishes while listening to the news. big mistake.


try and sit down and see whats going on here and its craziness. it doesnt change. now thats fucking scary shit right there

Twisted Sister said...

everything is going up except my paycheck!

Anonymous said...

6:56, those would make good lyrics.

Twisted Sister said...

I try and not to watch the news..it is depressing, all they show is the bad

Anonymous said...

I am off to do laundry, go to sleep, get up go to work (yeah, some of us work!) do the same thing all over again. such is life huh?

take care of yourselves blog believers

resurrected wreck said...

Hullo :)

Anonymous said...

finally, bye crazy anon!

Twisted Sister said...

I am off to do laundry, go to sleep, get up go to work (yeah, some of us work!) do the same thing all over again. such is life huh?

take care of yourselves blog believers

September 23, 2008 7:11 PM



Lifes a bitch and so is work. Sleep well!

Anonymous said...

no it wouldn't. you make something up. I am tired. no writing for me and I would never give that gift here again

Twisted Sister said...

cheer up people! Life is not all bad!

Twisted Sister said...

hello rw, how are you?

Anonymous said...

You did.

Twisted Sister said...

no it wouldn't. you make something up. I am tired. no writing for me and I would never give that gift here again

September 23, 2008 7:13 PM



That's a shame, we need more stories and good times here

Anonymous said...

you are the scary one anon @ 7:12
the one who is a regular and has to throw little insults about. little jabs which dont hurt btw.
trying to start more trouble, THAT is whats scary YOU. Its sad at the same time but hey, not my problem.
baa bye

resurrected wreck said...

Hi, TS :)

I'm tired but otherwise fine.

How are you doing? I haven't bumped into you much at this time!

Anonymous said...

You are very paranoid, Mel/anon.

Twisted Sister said...

well im outta here, i think alot of feelings have been hurt and thats a shame.I hope everyone has a goodnight and maybe tomorrow will be better.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...
finally, bye crazy anon!

September 23, 2008 7:12 PM



everybody is crazy but you huh? never ceases to make my head ache



Anon 7:20 by you writing that shows your true colors t



j


wont show as a regular. must be scared
baaaa bye

Twisted Sister said...

i'm good RW, i finally got my son off the computer, as he is at the skate park right now!

resurrected wreck said...

Excellent, TS! I'll bet he's enjoying himself!

Anonymous said...

WTF is going on LOL!

Twisted Sister said...

He is , they are not allowed to skate on the sidewalks so they finally built a little skate park for the kids.

Anonymous said...

night crews a comin they are all scared now. whoop

Twisted Sister said...

It kind of scares me, so i drop him off and drive away without looking! LOL!

Anonymous said...

whayt?

Twisted Sister said...

gotta run, bye rw and anons

resurrected wreck said...

Have a good night, TS :)

Anonymous said...

Sorry I left you hanging TS. I was chasing after my rabbit. Take care!

Hi RW *big squeeze* how was your day?

resurrected wreck said...

Hullo, BC! :)

*squeeze!*

My day was quite good, thanks. How about yours?

Anonymous said...

I'm good, but pooped RW. I boxed for a bit, then went to go after my rabbit, she was chewing the cable cords and such. She's outside right not though.

I'm exhausted, and I have a slight headache. I'll be resting for a bit

resurrected wreck said...

Sounds a bit like my day, BC, apart from the rabbit.

I'm also quite tired and slightly headachy. A shower & a pill should take care of that though.

resurrected wreck said...

I am off to shower, BC. Hope to catch you later :)

Anonymous said...

Hi SS! *waves*

I know this is probably going to make you facepalm but I wanted to let you know that I followed your advice and I'm so happy I did ;)

I know I'm a little late and believe me I did some facepalming of my own. You wouldn't believe the lulz you brought, just ask Pash about Puff the Magic Dragon! The rain was falling from our eyes!

Anyway, thank you. You really are the Master tipper of hats, aren't you?

Anonymous said...

weird thing you all dont get us that anons take over for one another to sound like someone else
the anons, the regulars do it
for expample one could be on the phone with another or on an instant messenger program. if one has to leave the other picks up as or for them.
a few regulars and anons do it to pretend they are other anons or elude they are regualrs to stir shit. they think no one is wise to it.

reading back and what strikes me as scary is no one says it
you should leave each other alone and you wouldn't have to deal with their craziness or ignore them which would work

Anonymous said...

Enjoy your shower RW.i I hope your headache eases :)

Damn, I need to take one too. I'll be back later.

Anonymous said...

sheesh! off to shower

Anonymous said...

Anyone care for AIM? :) I has some pics to share. ^_^

Anonymous said...

Are they of you? 'Cause you is pretty:)

Anonymous said...

Sorry I missed you BC and RW! *waves anyway*

AIM hates me, as does my 'a' key.

Anonymous said...

ALicia looked great at the NJ concert with Leathermouth and Mikey
Why are people saying she is terrible. She seemed nice enough

Anonymous said...

ummm cause some people are jeluzz

Anonymous said...

mayo, ss, where you be at?

Anonymous said...

Get your arse on AIM now!

You may need to bring a raincoat the rain is falling so hard from our eyes!

Anonymous said...

Thank you, 8:01! That is quite kind. :D They are of our trip, and we decided that we would all vote some pics in or out before we posted those bastards. :)

LucyBean, does that mean you can't get on? O_o

Anonymous said...

Okay then! :D

Anonymous said...

UNITED NATIONS - Iran's president addressed the U.N. General Assembly Tuesday declaring that "the American empire" is nearing collapse and should end its military involvement in other countries.



damn, even Iran knows who bad it is.

Anonymous said...

Thank you, 8:01! That is quite kind. :D They are of our trip, and we decided that we would all vote some pics in or out before we posted those bastards. :)



we want the scandalous pics!! LOL!

Anonymous said...

The ones involving mouse ears and lollies!!

Anonymous said...

hello
♥♥

Anonymous said...

hello anonomouse :)

resurrected wreck said...

Hullo?

Anonymous said...

You still stink. Did you jump in the shower for a minute? ;)

resurrected wreck said...

ALicia looked great at the NJ concert with Leathermouth and Mikey

Oooo! Did they go to the show? That's nice :)

resurrected wreck said...

Iz you talking to me, 8:26pm??

Anonymous said...

Hi again everyone. Hi RW *big squeeze*

Anonymous said...

yea she was

Anonymous said...

They looked like shit.

Anonymous said...

are you saying someone is dirty?

Anonymous said...

yea they went upstairs after a while

resurrected wreck said...

I'll have you know I smell all fresh and sweet-like, just like a flower!

A flower, I tell you!

resurrected wreck said...

Hi again, BC :)

*squeeze*

Anonymous said...

Bert wants to do me.

Anonymous said...

not a nice thing to say. you weren't even there!

resurrected wreck said...

Nice first comment!

Anonymous said...

I somehow doubt that.

Anonymous said...

They looked great. Mikey looked tired

resurrected wreck said...

Who are you talking about?

Anonymous said...

Bert wants world peace.

resurrected wreck said...

Oh! Mikey and Alicia.

Whatever they looked like, they turned up to support their friend. That counts for a lot in my book.

Anonymous said...

Mikey looked like the cokehead that he is.

Anonymous said...

what makes u think that?

Anonymous said...

Mikey is Alicia's bitch.

Anonymous said...

there ya go rw

Anonymous said...

Bert wants Gerard's bat and balls.

Anonymous said...

Anon at 8:34 you are an ass

Anonymous said...

8:34 you are cruel

Anonymous said...

I need you like water
Like breath, like rain
I need you like mercy
From heaven's gate

Anonymous said...

anybody jealuz much
besides Bert wants anyone and everyone

Anonymous said...

youshouldvknown said alicia had been "spreading the love" around and she knows this because she's seen the list of medications he's taking.

and then salty posted a link regarding cocaine induced bi-polar disorder.

Anonymous said...

RW you are right. They were there to support a friend. That is important. Glad you pointed that out and noticed

Anonymous said...

I bet RW smells really nice ^_^

Anonymous said...

835, you're an ignorant teeny.

Anonymous said...

pash! who is jelluz of what anon

Anonymous said...

Bert is happily married and not to a lesbian.

Anonymous said...

All communication has two parts: a sender and a receiver. The sender has a message he or she intends to transmit, and s/he puts it in words, which, to her/him, best reflect what s/he is thinking. But many things can intervene to prevent the intended message from being received accurately.




If the communication is verbal, tone of voice can influence interpretation. The boss's words, "Hey, I noticed you were taking an especially long break this morning," could be interpreted as an attack if she or he said that in a disapproving tone, while the comment might be seen as a minor reminder about office rules if it was said in a friendly way. If the employee has a health problem that sometimes requires long breaks, the comment might have even been a friendly inquiry about what was happening and whether the employee needed any help. Here, tone of voice as well as situational and relationship factors would influence the interpretation of the message.

Nonverbal cues also are important. Is the sender's posture open and friendly, or closed and cold? Is her facial expression friendly or accusatory? All of these factors influence how the same words will be received.

In addition to how the message is sent, many additional factors determine how the receiver interprets the message. All new information we learn is compared with the knowledge we already have. If it confirms what we already know, we will likely receive the new information accurately, though we may pay little attention to it. If it calls into question our previous assumptions or interpretation of the situation, we may distort it in our minds so that it is made to fit our world view, or we may dismiss the information as deceptive, misguided, or simply wrong.

If the message is ambiguous, the receiver is especially likely to clarify it for him or herself in a way which corresponds with his or her expectations. For example, if two people are involved in an escalated conflict, and they each assume that the other is going to be aggressive and hostile, then any ambiguous message will be interpreted as aggressive and hostile, even if it was not intended to be that way at all. Our expectations work as blinders or filters that distort what we see so that it fits our preconceived images of the world. (Conflict theorists call these filters "frames." See the essay on Frames, Framing, and Reframing for more information.)

An analogy can be made to an experiment that tested people's interpretation of visual cues. When people were given eyeglasses that turned the world upside-down, they had to suffer through with upside-down images for a week or two. After that, their brains learned to reverse the images, so they were seeing things right-side up again. The same thing happens when we hear something we "know" is wrong. Our brains "fix" it so that it appears as we expect it to.

Cultural differences increase the likelihood of misunderstanding as well. If people speak different languages, the danger of bad translation is obvious. But even if people speak the same language, they may communicate in different ways.

Common differences are between high-context and low-context communication. Low-context communication stands on its own; it does not require context or interpretation to give it meaning. High-context communication is more ambiguous. It requires background knowledge and understanding (context), in addition to the words themselves, for communication. While everyone uses both kinds of communication, Western cultures tend to use low-context communication more often, while Eastern and Latin American and African cultures tend to use high-context communication. If such differences are not understood and adjusted for, misunderstanding is almost inevitable.[1]

Culture also affects communication by influencing the recipients' assumptions. As described above, our minds try to twist incoming information to make it fit in our worldview. Since different cultures have very different worldviews, cross-cultural communication is especially likely to change meaning between sender and receiver, as the sender may have a very different worldview from the receiver.

Given our tendency to hear what we expect to hear, it is very easy for people in conflict to misunderstand each other. Communication is already likely to be strained, and people will often want to hide the truth to some extent. Thus the potential for misperception and misunderstanding is high, which can make conflict management or resolution more difficult.

Amyranth said...

*opens the front door and wiggles in around all her bags*

Wow. When's the last time anyone vacuummed this place?

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