There is a fantastic amount of complacency in and around me. I find more harmony here, in these amenable arms, than anywhere else. Then, when I close my eyes and breathe deep, I feel peace. I can keep the burden of persuasion at arms length.
p.s. completed by convention.
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Well I can say that psychology has it's place ( I studied it and taught it) but must be taken into account along with behaviour, history etc.
If a friend of mine who was happily single met someone, fell in love and married a couple of months later I'd be surprised, perhaps a little concerned but overall happy for them.
if someone I knew with a history of mental illness, possible substance abuse issues, a failed relaionship, a failed engagement ( which may have ended for bad reasons) all in the past year,in who I have noticed behavioural changes and who is overworked probably sleep deprived and in a workplace which creates a great deal of stress and unrealistic expectations as well as an unreal lifestyle got married to someone in the same situation ( or even someone quite "normal" job and lifestyle wise) on the apparent spur of the moment after knowing them 2 months...I would be very concerned.
hence my obcession with hanging out here
Ergoproxy - me too. Studied it. Didn't teach it...and I give you applause for being a teacher. I adore all teachers.
I'm still fascinated by the field, yet I always find that there is an exception to the reasoning. Psychology is not an exact science, as you know, because there exists so many alternatives. Always an exception to the rule or the theory.
I would be concerned for the situation as a therapist (as you mentioned), but only from what I've read - not from what I know personally in the situation. Therefore, we cannot pass a judgement. I do not know what happens in the life of Gerard.
Cheering up the fandom.
^______^
Oh there are always exceptions as you said Anon30.
and thank you for the appreciation of teachers ( we try hard!)
It's just that it was a marriage..hey if they lived together etc....ah that's just me I
am a more cautious person.
I don't know personally but there are people i speak to who do have connections and all seem to be saying the same thing, be it from different sources.
and thank you Kapunua !!
Always nice to see..
though my admiration is for the other side of the stage :)
Mayo, tell us what is going on. We need to know.
Assure us that you are okay. Here is your chance.
Ergoproxy, I completely understand what you are saying.
Crap, I'm so tired. I must leave now. I hope Mayo will REALLY address our comments. I think we deserve some recognition for caring.
Much love everyone.
You have long nights. Them being together for just a short period is a lifetime on tour.
Sorry, Anon30, but I have to disagree with you on this one. Yes, tours are long, and can be lonely. But seven weeks of dating (or however long) is still just seven weeks of dating. Sure, you get to spend more time with someone when you're both on the same tour, but whirlwind relationships are just that -- the excitement doesn't last. Maybe 5% of these unions work out, and that's being generous.
As I've said many times, I don't care who he married. The thing that I worry about is the odds against this relationship lasting, and what it will do to him & the band. As talented as Gerard is, he's not the most stable of individuals: his high points are VERY high, and his lows are very low. He's had a hell of a year, with both great & sad experiences. And I'm sorry, but his track record with females just doesn't bode well for this union.
I know other people (musicians) who live the same kind of life. All of them have been married at least once. Every marriage has failed, for all of them.
About your marriage comment...
Fun fact: I live in Canada. I caught this bit on the news last week that 51% of Canadian adults are single. Luckily, there's not as much pressure up here to get married and start a family. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against marriage -- I just think that people take the plunge too young. Hell, I'm in my 30's and not ready to settle down! I don't know if I ever will be!!
If gettin' hitched is something you want, go for it. But do it for the right reasons, and your brother/best friend/teammate/fish getting there before you does not a lasting relationship make. If it's truly love, congrats -- but I don't believe he can truly love someone until he loves himself.
Sorry for the rant, shitty night.
Everybody I meet tends to have a fucking agenda. >_<
I agree sister midnight, you cannot really love another unless you accept yourself, otherwise it's like trying to find someone to complete you. And that's never going to happen.
I would also like to add, because he is most likely a very anxious person, I assume he would be very difficult to live with. Highly anxious people tend to insist on controlling their environment. This seems likely, he seems to have the most input on the bands direction and image, and probably insisted that MSI support them in Europe.
http://www.buzznet.com/groups/mcrfans/photos/?id=23154481
Is it just me, or is he starting to look like Pete Doherty? It's the dark circles around his eyes, I think. All he needs is a hat & a ciggie hanging out of his mouth.
" I will say that in that video of Gee and LynZ walking out of that comic signing, I got the chills.
Gerard DID look like a different person. He didn't wave or smile at anyone."
Dude, I was standing right there. Yes, he fucking did. Watch it again, damn you. He smiles and says "Bye." Worm smiles and says "Bye."
Lyn smiles too because she's NICE. She took a hell of a lot of time out that day to speak personally to fans, to take pictures and sign autographs, for every single person who asked her, and there were ALOT.
The comparisons to Eliza are ridiculous too. Lyn is a bass player in a band at least well known enough to be personally invited to PR by Chester and to have had him sing on one of their tracks. She's Gerard's PEER. Eliza is a hairdresser. A band hairdresser, yes, but nonetheless a hairdresser.
Um, MSI's lyrics are meant to be CYNICAL and SARCASTIC, people, must you be so literal? Plus, Lyn doesn't write those anyway; that's Jimmy.
I don't know what you people have convinced yourselves you are seeing, but they looked pretty damned happy and in love to me. They left holding hands, they smiled at the mention of each other's names. She was there with him on his big day.
Gerard was nothing but gracious at that signing. He made eye contact, he addressed everyone by name, he answered their questions.
Even if something WAS going on with G, why would that change anything? He's a PERSON. A good fan would support him through it, whatever is was, as would a good friend. Wasn't the original attraction to this band due, in some part, to their honesty about the personal hurdles they've had to overcome? Okay, so what would be the great shock to learn that G had another? You make no sense.
Also, why must you all be so fatalistic? Now it's the end of My Chemical Romance because Gerard got married (or prior to this, engaged?) Give me a BREAK! Not for nothing, but quite a few come off as spurned little girls, not caring fans.
Oh and you all KNOW FOR A FACT that he's drinking and drugging too, eh? Because your aunt's manicurist's cousin "saw some bottles in their bus" or w/e You'd better come up with harder evidence than that, becuase that's one hell of a damaging accusation otherwise.
You guys need to stop stirring up drama. And you need to stop listening to internet weirdos who claim to "know Gerard (or Frank, or Brian, or who the fuck ever) personally."
It's highly unlikely that anyone in their inner circle would be spending their days gossiping with the likes of you on the internet, unless they needed fucking serious help themselves, alright (and I suspect they do - need help that is.)
Just throw on a cd, laugh at their funny interviews, aww at the cute pictures, then go on and lead your life. You can't do anything about Gerard's decisions anyhow, so stop deluding yourself into thinking that you can.
I love My Chem with all my heart, and I also know what I saw with MY own two eyes.
So anyone with info contrary to my own, please, post some fucking evidence or STFU already. Even then, you'd be wrong to do so, because you're intruding upon someone's personal space. So STFU is really the only logical option here. You've all said your piece already, MOVE ON.
Kthanks.
P.S.: Gerard if you really ARE reading all this bullshit, I'm sorry, but I highly doubt you are, so...not too worried.
to Annon at September 23, 2007 10:05 PM
Ditto!!!!! People completely over analyze this bands every move. Everything we see or hear on the internet must be taken with a grain of salt. My best advise: read it and then move on!!!!! Its all tabloid on a monitor screen.
Thanks for the dose of reality.
Anonyomous at 10:05:
Thank you!
Can I post this on the newest blog? I love everything you wrote.
even after all these years i still care. a huge chunk of my life was invested in this band, in those people. i'm glad that they are returning to the stage but i hope they will be in better places. i would like to say this as well to G & F it will always be the two of you. and you guys both know that deep down in your hearts. i wished you could have made it together. love you both so much. S.
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