Saturday, June 20, 2009

Set to self-destruct.

The saddest girl
In the whole world
Sits in thirty day
Thinks she owns it.
Models herself a pro
With every word just so
Crack answers for everything
And a lie to keep you guessing
Is she real or just made-up.

She says she's lost her life
And can't tell where to find it.
So she sold her soul for the high
Of the sweet synthetic lullaby.
Where's the bottom when you need it?

The saddest girl
In the whole world
Just told the doctor she's fine
The problem isn't mine
"It's them." and they've ruined me
And all that I could ever be.
So now she has a new disguise
and half-way covers her eyes
with a crystal crooked crown
Slipping just missing her frown.

She says she's lost her life
And can't tell where to find it.
So she sold her soul for the high
Of the sweet synthetic lullaby.
Where's the bottom when you need it?

She used to be a little girl
The sweetest you've ever seen.
Now she's just a tracing
Of a near broke beauty queen.

4,856 comments:

«Oldest   ‹Older   1201 – 1400 of 4856   Newer›   Newest»
Anonymous said...

Thanks sugarplum! How you're doing tonight?

Anon616 said...

Sweetcheeks: I'm doing good!!! Thanks for asking. How are you?

Did you see the pictures of Henry?

Anon616 said...

Hello Elena!!! I left some special pictures for Jake as well!

Sandy Ann hopes he'll like them! She did give him her best big smile!
;)

ergoproxy said...

is elena gone again?

Anon616 said...

Hi again, Ergo! Did you see your special picture? I took it just for you....

Nevermind the fact that I didn't even know you back then!
:P

I think Elena has wandered off into the woods again. I hope she remembered to be her rope and knot book! Just in case.

How was your day? Has that pig pen been finished?

Anon616 said...

OOOPS!

*edit*

to bring her rope

ergoproxy said...

I wanna see JAWS!!!!!!


I am good but busy cleaning but that's ok

Anon616 said...

I should have spent the day cleaning, Ergo. I was lazy and spent the day lounging and being, well, lazy!
:P

Anonymous said...

*runs back to the blog*

Sugarplum, where are these pictures of Henry? I must see!! Lol

Anon616 said...

Well, since I spent all day being lazy, I suppose it's time I get something done.

Goodnight Ergo, Sweetcheeks, J (who I just missed), Elena, Mayo, SS, lurkers!

J: I hope you feel better soon!!!

Sweet dreams to one and all!!!

Hugs and Love,

~Namaste~
6/Wendy

Goodnight PJ, Amy and Mya!

Anonymous said...

Goodnight sugarplum sweet dreams

Anon616 said...

*runs back in to answer her Sweetcheeks*

They're at the bottom of the previous page, Sweetcheeks!!!!

I'm still looking forward to seeing the new pictures of Bugsy and Chocolate!

Goodnight and sweet dreams!

*blows night night kisses*

Anonymous said...

Thanks sugarplum! Goodnight and sweet dreams.

Elena, are you ok?

ergoproxy said...

goodnight wendy

sweet dreams xx

elena said...

Mayo

I’ve been thinking today about an anon question last night. It really was a lovely read in the middle of the storm. Anyway it was a question about heaven. The anon wondered if we believed in it and what we thought it would be like. Well today that question led me in another direction. I started thinking about the way you’d get there – death. Like I’ve said before death never really concerned me when I was younger. Yeah, I worried about losing my parents but that that was about it. Maybe I was even a bit drawn to it because I spent so much time reading horror books and comics. But when my girls were born that changed. Suddenly death lurked waiting to take from me those I loved. And to be honest I had trouble dealing with that fear. It was difficult for me not to let myself go overboard and become way too overprotective of my girls when they were little. I myself was very overprotected, to the point of other kids making fun, but I always just accepted it. I knew it was done out of love. Still, I made a promise to myself not to do that to the girls. And that was a fucking hard promise to keep. I can still remember many nights when I couldn’t sleep going into each room and just sitting and watching while they slept. It was peaceful watching over them. Funny but I always felt I wasn’t alone in the vigil. I always felt a guardian angel sitting beside me. As the years passed and they grew older of course I pretty much wasn’t allowed in their rooms. Teens and their personal space and all. It was okay, most of my fears had quieted. Not completely of course. Every night I still don’t rest until I know they are safe and sound. I’m sure it annoys them that they have to check in even if they are staying at a friend’s house but they do it for me and for that I’m very grateful. And I know it probably seems I got off topic again but really I haven’t. Death is once more becoming that nagging little thought that won’t quite go away. I realize this is because my mother is getting older and I see each day how things that used to be so easy for her to do, become a struggle. I also realize that as my girls go out in the world I won’t always be able to protect them and it scares me. But something I read today on Twitter sorta made me think about death and well..heaven. It was a quote by O Henry “Turn up the lights I don’t want to go home in the dark” It was his last words. Truly I think they were beautiful. That really summed up what heaven means to me. I believe with all my heart it will be like going home. Home where my loved ones wait and where I will wait for those I love to come when their time here is done. Yep, going home doesn’t seem scary at all.

Okay done rambling now. Hope you had a wonderful day. Take care.

Night Mayo

Elena

elena said...

BC

I'm okay and thanks so much for asking. Take care.

Anonymous said...

No problem elena. I'm glad you're okay. You take care too. Sweet dreams!

Anonymous said...

Elena

Death isn't the only road that leads to Heaven. Heaven can exist right here on earth. That's the Heaven I referred to yesterday morning. The Heaven of the living.

I imagine the spiritual Heaven to be much like I described as well. Only with prestine rivers, lakes and streams, rolling hills, forests, mountains, endless meadows filled with flowers and every soul you've ever loved.

:)

Anonymous said...

Excuse me, the Heaven I referred to on June 29, 2009 at 1:53 AM.

Your spiritual Heaven does sound much like mine. Beautiful.

Just remember, life is beautiful as well.

Goodnite Elena.
Goodnite BC.

lewishasfallensloppydead said...

O.K. I'm not caught up. But I just wanted to see if anyone else was around -and if Frank Iero's new brand of monstrous (and SO fucking UNLIKE HIM) humor --

Just scared the shit out of you guys too.

Anyone else just feel like that was the last confirmation needed that the whole fuckin world is infact coming to a fuckin end??

ANYONE?

Cuz I am sure terrifed now.

The giggly loved one (whom I secretly refer to in my head as Frankie The Pooh) just lost his shit in the worst way I have read a person yet.

How fucking nice.

Maybe he really does Blog.


Heaven on earth sounds nice Anon. Perhaps the Should Be Dead Bastard Children who annoyed him at a stupid fucking movive last night -should kidnap his terrifyingly vile ass and send him there. -Heaven, I mean.

Jesus Christ. Fuck the internet. What the fuck does it give us? Nothing but cruelty and the responsibility free rain to fucking destroy ourselves -OR the ability to destroy any faith other people have in us.

Anyway, fuck this. Hope everyone, depsite themselves, is fucking well. Night.

lewishasfallensloppydead said...

Ps. Sorry to ruin you're beautiful moment 4:44/4:52.

I couldn't hold that in. I apologize. My rant does nothing but further the ugly here. I'm sorry. You have a good night anon(s).
<3

lewishasfallensloppydead said...

Oh shit. I meant "lovey." Not loved. However, I would say both work.

Although, I'm rethinking the latter one tonight.

Never thought that would fucking happen.

Anyway, night guys. Just wanted to clarify. "Out of Character." later-

Anonymous said...

It's ok LHFSD. We all need to vent and rant sometimes. You and even Frankie the Pooh.

People sometimes do and say things that seem completely out of character. They get angry. They get vexed. They feel pressure. They let it out.

It happens. It doesn't change who they are. It doesn't make them a bad or evil person.

He's still the same good person he was yesterday. Just a day older and wiser. So are you.

Goodnite LHFSD.

lewishasfallensloppydead said...

He's been letting it out for a while now 5:57.

But I do appreciate you're words. So, thank you. Think I'm just gonna avoid the net for a while. Don't want to see that. Especially not from him. (-Cuz I did think he was a good person. I didn't think I needed to be convinced of that.)

You have a goodnight anon. I really do appreciate your effort. I'm sorry if I impy otherwise. Thank you, again. night<3

lewishasfallensloppydead said...

Goddamn.

IMPLY.

Sorry. -night

Anonymous said...

(:

Anonymous said...

frank: To the two screaming prick faced toddlers who ruined my viewing of transformers last night, your mother should have sat on a coat hanger. Xo

5 hours ago



So sweet. So courteous. No wonder you all love him so much.

ergoproxy said...

Hi Lewis,
it certainly seems out of character, bit of a concern for someone who usually appears so different. Hope it's something transitory that will be worked out.
Hope you're well and everything is going ok


Mayo
I'm tired, but I did manage to clean and rearrange our spare room. It just kind of ends up a bit of a place to put stuff you don't put anywhere else. And it seems we had quite a lot of stuff that hadn't gone where it should have. But all done now at least. Tomorrow is Hannah Montana movie, the things we must do , they should tell you all this in a pamphlet you get when you have your baby, "you will know every kids show ever invented, you will know the words to every Wiggles song, you will find Captain Feathersword/Joe or Steve from Blue's Clues or Sportacus from Lazy Town strangely attractive, you will, before you realise, be singing along with Disney Channel "celebs" in their bid for tweeny fame"....and the list goes on. But it's special, and you wouldn't trade it. I'll let you know what it's like
much love EP xx


SS
so do you ever have to watch Hannah Montana? Must admit I much prefer Drake and Josh, but it's not too bad. But if I have to hear how much in love the Jonas Bros. are with the Pizza Girl again I think it may be grounds for something! Hope your Tuesday will be free from Disney Channel songs, but full of Spongebob type laughs
lotsa love EP xx

goodnight blogbelieve, see you in my morning
♥xx♥

Anonymous said...

He's a grown man. He shouldn't be made to feel he has to be guarded in his speech. In the real world or on the internet.

If he starts saying things like that on a regular, daily-weekly basis then I'll become concerned 8:39.

Until then I'll give him the benefit of the doubt.

mya said...

Frank's tweet...

Not good...

He DOES realize it IS a KID'S movie, DOESN'T he?!

I suppose he couldn't have changed seats? Or better yet, maybe he should have rented out the entire theater for his own viewing enjoyment.

I can understand his rant, but his choice of words at the end were quite unfortunate.

mya said...

And I still think Michael Jackson could have easily faked his death...
A body double...

Anonymous said...

I hope he paid that body double plenty. Could be why he's over $400 million in debt.

Anonymous said...

He's a grown man. He shouldn't be made to feel he has to be guarded in his speech. In the real world or on the internet.

If he starts saying things like that on a regular, daily-weekly basis then I'll become concerned 8:39.

Until then I'll give him the benefit of the doubt.


Lucky for him he's not a woman and saying those things on this blog or he'd be getting shit from every direction.

But since he's a male in a rock band, everyone will give him the benefit of the doubt.

elena said...

Lucky for him he's not a woman and saying those things on this blog or he'd be getting shit from every direction.

But since he's a male in a rock band, everyone will give him the benefit of the doubt.


Well you might think that is how people feel but speaking for myself (and really that’s the one person I can speak for) that is not the reason. I was very shocked by his comment. And yes I know many will scoff at what I’m going to say and that’s okay. But I have met Frank. He was the only member of the band who came out after a concert looking dead tired to meet people. I’ve seen him do the same thing many times. That Frank is a man who cares about people and is a nice person. The Frank that made that comment is not that person. I don’t know what is going on in his head or in his life but the comment worried me. And for the record if any one here suddenly came in and said something completely out of character I would be worried about them also. I would want to know why they suddenly didn’t “sound” like themselves. I would be concerned. Male and rock band have nothing to do with it. Of course that is all just my opinion.

Anonymous said...

Really, Elena? You would be worried if anyone on here ranted like that. You would be worried about that person? Funny, I don't recall anything being said when Wendy and Amyranth ranted hatefilled things. Oh, wait, you said anything out of character. Never mind.

Anonymous said...

I can understand his rant, but his choice of words at the end were quite unfortunate.

June 30, 2009 10:33 AM

I agree. He could of left the last part out. I believe in freedom of speech but why did he have to twitter that knowing that alot of young fans would see it?

Anonymous said...

Addressing that comment to toddlers and saying he wished their mothers had aborted them with a coat hanger? And why? Because they interfered with his enjoyment of a film.

I'm sorry, but that is the most vile thing I think I've read in a very long time.

I'm the mother of two very well-behaved, nearly grown children. But I remember very well back when they were toddlers. Thing is, with toddlers, you cannot control their behavior. They aren't old enough to reason yet and they very often act out in public.

What's a parent to do? Leave them home every single time you go out? That's not always possible. I do remember getting dirty looks from people whenever my children cried, be it at the grocery store, the mall, a restaurant, wherever. I always took them outside if they were completely out of control, but that didn't stop the dirty looks.

Just wait til he has kids.

Anonymous said...

Something is definitely up. I have never thought he was a saint, I know he has a temper, but I have met him lots of times over the years and he has always been a total sweetie, very humble, funny and gracious.

Anonymous said...

Who in their right mind takes a pair of toddlers to see Transformers?

Anonymous said...

I get the feeling his comment was intended to shock.

elena said...

2:50 yes, I would be concerened about anyone who said something vile and out of character. Lots of ugly things have been said here or have you blinded yourself to that fact?

And believe me when I am concerned about someone I get in touch and try to talk to them.

Anonymous said...

Looks like he is set to self-destruct.

Anonymous said...

He clearly twittered that so everyone could read it. I'm sure he gets lots of shit tweeted to him, but he is a grown man.

Anonymous said...

Seems like he's lashing out in a desperate attempt to shed the cute heart-throb image.

Anonymous said...

Who in their right mind takes a pair of toddlers to see Transformers?

I agree that Transformers might not be a great place film to take young toddlers to see. There's a lot of action, a lot of noise and I'm sure they didn't understand it.

Still, having said that, the things Frank said in his tweet were completely over the top. Had he said that "Annoying toddlers are annoying" or "parents with toddlers should find baby-sitters" or something to that effect I would have agreed with him.

Calling toddlers "prick faces" and suggesting that they should have been aborted on the other hand? I don't think there is ever a situation where that kind of behavior is called for.

Anonymous said...

Who in their right mind takes a pair of toddlers to see Transformers?


It is rated PG. Maybe Frank should of had an adult with him as childish as he is acting.

Anonymous said...

Parental guidance was obviously lacking.

Anonymous said...

Parental guidance was obviously lacking.



For the toddlers or Frank?

Anonymous said...

Both

Anonymous said...

Fred Travalena 2006 on David Letterman

Anonymous said...

Anyone who would take toddlers to see a movie is either
a) a fucking moron
b) an inconsiderate fucking moron
c) an inconsiderate fucking moron who is too lazy to find an appropriate way to entertain their kids
d) all of the above

Anonymous said...

Care to give us a multiple choice of what anyone who would call a couple of toddlers prick faces and suggest they should have been aborted is?

Anonymous said...

Anyone who would take toddlers to see a movie is either
a) a fucking moron
b) an inconsiderate fucking moron
c) an inconsiderate fucking moron who is too lazy to find an appropriate way to entertain their kids
d) all of the above



This was posted by someone who doesn't have kids.

Anonymous said...

They are someone who thinks that Frank's tweet was funny and that he is awesome.

Anonymous said...

Anyone who would take toddlers to see a movie is either
a) a fucking moron
b) an inconsiderate fucking moron
c) an inconsiderate fucking moron who is too lazy to find an appropriate way to entertain their kids
d) all of the above


Frank is that you? LOL!

Anonymous said...

I went to see The Rocky Horror Show at the theater. Richard O'Brien was in the show and I looked forward to it for weeks.

It came to the Time Warp song. We were all on our feet dancing. Just then an usher came along and we had to stand back to let 4 people past, walking very slowly, who had obviously arrived late.

We were furious. At the very least the usher should have had these people stand in the aisle until the Time Warp had finished.

Ok, not saying usher should have been aborted but I hope he was reprimanded! We did complain.

Stupid behavior that ruined our experience. Why can't people consider others when sharing space?

Anonymous said...

Anyone who would take toddlers to see a movie is either
a) a fucking moron



Who else would go see The little mermaid? Maybe you?

Anonymous said...

This was posted by someone who doesn't have kids.

I agree wholeheartedly. Sometimes an older sibling desperately wants to see a movie and you have no choice but to take the younger child along with you.

4.32 Didn't Mikey go to the movies when he was 4 years old to see Ghostbusters with his big bro and parents? He blogged about it here. Ah so Donna and Donald are inconsiderate lazy fucking morons for taking him? All sorted then.

Anonymous said...

4.32 Didn't Mikey go to the movies when he was 4 years old to see Ghostbusters with his big bro and parents?


I bet Gerard threw a tantrum because they wouldn't let him have coffee.

Anonymous said...

4 isn't a toddler. I could read and write by the time I was 4 and would have been able sit through, and understand, a film.

Anonymous said...

I agree wholeheartedly. Sometimes an older sibling desperately wants to see a movie and you have no choice but to take the younger child along with you.

Of course you have a choice. Get a sitter or wait for it to come out on DVD.

Anonymous said...

Of course you have a choice. Get a sitter or wait for it to come out on DVD.

Not the issue here.

Toddlers at movies are annoying. That's just a fact. Still, what Frank said was a complete overreaction and totally uncalled for.

Prick-faced? Sounds like he's not too much older than said toddlers.

mya said...

I took my daughter to see the Lion King was she wasn't quite 4 and she was glued to the screen the whole time. Not all toddlers are misbehaved.

Oh, and:

Anonymous said...

Really, Elena? You would be worried if anyone on here ranted like that.


Like saying they should crawl back up in their mother's womb and get aborted?

mya said...

Not much difference if you ask me

Anonymous said...

Why do some parents think others should tolerate their children's bad behavior in avoidable circumstances?

Anonymous said...

4 isn't a toddler. I could read and write by the time I was 4 and would have been able sit through, and understand, a film.

I was still peeing in my pants at 4.

mya said...

I hope you have grown out of that, 5:37

Anonymous said...

4 isn't a toddler. I could read and write by the time I was 4 and would have been able sit through, and understand, a film.

Lol. Oh hai, Genius.

Anonymous said...

I took my daughter to see the Lion King was she wasn't quite 4

woah, I didn't know they had the talkies back in those days.

Anonymous said...

Why do some parents think others should tolerate their children's bad behavior in avoidable circumstances?



You don't have children do you? Sometimes childern are unpredictable and will go off at any moment. Should we lock them up until they grow out of it?

Anonymous said...

4 isn't a toddler. I could read and write by the time I was 4 and would have been able sit through, and understand, a film.


what were you watching? Barney?

mya said...

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I took my daughter to see the Lion King was she wasn't quite 4

woah, I didn't know they had the talkies back in those days.

June 30, 2009 5:41 PM


Woah, The Lion King was "back in those days"?! ROTFFLMFAO!

Anonymous said...

Anonymous Anonymous said...

4 isn't a toddler. I could read and write by the time I was 4 and would have been able sit through, and understand, a film.

Lol. Oh hai, Genius.


No, like Mya said, she took her child, who wasn't quite 4 to see Lion King and she sat through it glued to the screen. Some children are just more developed than others. I don't think being able to read and write at 4 is anything out of the ordinary.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...

4 isn't a toddler. I could read and write by the time I was 4 and would have been able sit through, and understand, a film.


what were you watching? Barney?


so you think that a 4 year old (again, 4 is OLDER than a toddler) would not be capable of watching and understanding anything more complex than Barney? so taking them to see Transformers would be a really dumb move, wouldn't it?

Anonymous said...

You never no with kids. Angels for one moment....then all hell breaks loose. The sad thing is they never out grow it!

mya said...

I don't think being able to read and write at 4 is anything out of the ordinary.

Correct.
Children who are read to, encouraged to learn, and who are stimulated also do better in school.

mya said...

Actually, my daughter was watching Disney movies and sitting through them at 18 months.

mya said...

And Barney...

Anonymous said...

You don't have children do you? Sometimes childern are unpredictable and will go off at any moment. Should we lock them up until they grow out of it?.

I expect the parent to be considerate of others. If the child cannot be pacified, I am talking about avoidable occasions like theaters etc, then I expect the parent to remove the child from the situation out of respect for others.

It does not matter whether I have children or not. I am not talking about all parents, only some.

mya said...

I agree with you, Anon. Parents should remove the child when trouble starts and before it gets really irritating for others.

mya said...

I usually only had threaten to leave and start counting for my daughter to start behaving. But, I have a nephew that was a live-wire when he was little and he had to go out in the lobby or to the bathroom and have a "talking to" on many occasions.

ergoproxy said...

good morning!!

Hi mya
hi anons

I have taken toddlers to the movies, all are different, some will act differently at different times, the polite thing for a parent to do is walk out with them, at any public event where they may be troublesome to others.
You may miss out as well, but that is one of the responsibilities of being a parent.
One responsibility of being an adult is choosing your words and not broadcasting them publicly when they would be offensive to many, if you need to, it can be done in private and not on a public forum.


BUT!
today is a lovely day, and I am being taken to see Hannah Montana, lucky, lucky me
:/

mya said...

Gotta go cook dinner now. See ya later!

mya said...

Hi, Ergo!

mya said...

One responsibility of being an adult is choosing your words and not broadcasting them publicly when they would be offensive to many, if you need to, it can be done in private and not on a public forum.


So true!!!!

mya said...

I'll be back later!

ergoproxy said...

My daughter went from Disney movies to Jurassic Park at 2 1/2, then Ghostbusters, then Phantom of the Opera

she has eclectic tastes

Anonymous said...

I expect the parent to be considerate of others. If the child cannot be pacified, I am talking about avoidable occasions like theaters etc, then I expect the parent to remove the child from the situation out of respect for others.

It does not matter whether I have children or not. I am not talking about all parents, only some.


I agree with that.I don't agree with this.

Anyone who would take toddlers to see a movie is either
a) a fucking moron
b) an inconsiderate fucking moron
c) an inconsiderate fucking moron who is too lazy to find an appropriate way to entertain their kids
d) all of the above

ergoproxy said...

I don't agree with that for a huge percentage of parents either, I do though know a couple who'd fit right in there.

Anonymous said...

Anyone who would call very young children prick faced toddlers whose mother should have sat on a coat hanger on a public website is:

a) a dickhead from New Jersey who was not taught any manners

b) on drugs

c) a fucking moron

d) having an emotional breakdown

e) all of the above

ergoproxy said...

my thought go out to Farrah Fawcett's family and friends as they farewell her now, may she rest in peace.


off to the movies, see y'all later
you got the best of both worlds....

Original Punk J said...

“To the two screaming prick faced toddlers who ruined my viewing of transformers last night, your mother should have sat on a coat hanger. Xo”

This is the fourth time I’ve started this comment. I honestly have no clue how to say what I want to say. When I read Frank’s comment on Twitter this morning, a tsunami of emotion rolled over me. At first I was too stunned to react. Then I was angry for a few minutes. Disappointment came next, but was quickly replaced by sorrow. That’s where I’ve lived for the rest of the day. (Add to that falling at the animal shelter, and dealing with various rude people from there on out, and it’s been a real red-letter day.)

Frank doesn’t act like this. I said before that he and I have met on four different occasions, and he was nothing but wonderful to me, and to everyone else he spoke to. So what’s going on with him? I know it’s impossible to be happy and pleasant 24/7. And believe me, I know EXACTLY how it is to say something, well, harsh or ugly or whatever, and then have second thoughts about it. He may have just been blowing off steam. I can respect that.

But I gotta say, it came across really, REALLY, nasty. These are children he’s referencing. The kids can’t help it if they’re scared or tired or hungry. They’re kids. The only way they know how to tell their parents what’s wrong is to cry. Now admittedly, I’m not overly fond of children, especially the ones who’re left to do what they want in public. But you know whose fault THAT is? Their parents. Seems like making children behave out in the big world is a rare commodity these days. Can’t tell you how many times small kids have run into me in a store, or come to my table in a restaurant, or screamed in my ear and kicked my chair in a movie. That happened because the parents weren’t paying attention.

If Frank was that pissed off by these kids, he could’ve changed seats. He could have asked the parents to keep their kids quiet. How does he think the parents feel? And the other customers? You know, if need be, he can always go back and see it again—and NOT SIT NEAR ANY CHILDREN.

I still believe Frank’s a good man, a kind-hearted, caring, loving man. He’s shown that side much more often than he has this snarly one. Someone once asked did we think he has a temper, and I said Yes, definitely, I’ve seen it before. A man who can destroy a guitar fret-first on stage will more than likely have a temper. I can relate to that kind of anger: explode first, then calm down and let it go.

It feels like he’s not letting it go so much anymore.

Been wondering if LeATHERMOUTH was such a good idea after all. Seems like Frank let the hatred and anger from his “anger-outlet” band crawl over into his soul. Now he can’t shake it, maybe. We worried about that for a long time. He was on stage every night screaming these angry lyrics over and over; wouldn’t you expect them to infect his heart? I would.

Do I think he's on drugs? No, I do not. But I do think something is awfully wrong in his life.

Like I said before, I still love Franky, and I always will. I’ll stand by him, stand up for him, when he needs it.

I can’t, and won’t, do that this time. I hope he understands.

You know the part that really bothers me? He signed that comment “Xo”.

Just like he signed his very sweet “thank you” note to me.

Should I be worried?

Amyranth said...

Hm.

Well, I don't think Frank was completely in the wrong to say what he said, but there's little doubt in my mind that he was venting.

I agree that overall if a child of any age cannot behave in public, they should be removed from the situation, especially if the child is being extremely disruptive.

(However, I also feel that children under the age of 10 don't really belong at weddings, but that's another time.)

But again, it depends on what you consider to be "childish behaviour". A screaming, kicking fit-tossing little christer should be removed from the situation and brought home. A 5 year old out to see a movie with Mom and Dad that they fall asleep in the middle of isn't as annoying.

So, let's say you have 2 5 year olds. One is content to stare at the back of the seat, nod off, and maybe ask quietly if he can go and use the washroom. The second one is bouncing in his seat, throwing popcorn at people, and talking loudly through the film. I'd take that child out to the lobby and give them a simple "You behave, or we leave." And follow through.

Overall though, previous posters are right. Even if little christers don't go to movies, who's going to see them enough times to warrant a sequel?

Amyranth said...

*blinks*

Hi J!

We're getting a little too weird here.

elena said...

J

What happened at the animal shelter? Are you okay?

Amyranth said...

And yes, what happened at the animal shelter? Were you guys adopting again?

Anonymous said...


frank: To the two screaming prick faced toddlers who ruined my viewing of transformers last night, your mother should have sat on a coat hanger. Xo




I never want to read OPJ or anyone not signed in again bullshit about Kapunua being a harsh bitch for telling someone to fuck off and leave her alone.

Your saint Frank, the one you all look up to and pretend to be such good people to impress, doesn't even seem to care.

Hypocrites.

Anonymous said...

I don't see any of the people here completely agreeing with him and laughing it off, anon. I see people who are addressing the comment.

Anonymous said...

Anon, this will be the part where they will divert and ask you what Frank has to do with Kapunua or Mayo's blog.

elena said...

8:50 you truly need to let go of that anger before it destroys you.

If you don't want to see things here there is an easy solution for that.

People here were talking about Frank. How does this correspond to K? Lots of nasty things have been written here by many people. And believe me that had been pointed out again and again.

Let it go. Stop trying to make everything about K. To keep bringing her up, when she has clearly stated she doesn't want to be talked about is ridiculous.

If you truly like her why do this?

elena said...

Anonymous said...
Anon, this will be the part where they will divert and ask you what Frank has to do with Kapunua or Mayo's blog.


I won't. That's an easy one. This blog started with MCR fans. Taking about the group really shouldn't seem all that strange to you.

Anonymous said...

you truly need to let go of that anger before it destroys you

Good advice, not just for the anon but for Frank as well.

Such anger and directed towards toddler age children. Not healthy at all for either him or the band.

Original Punk L said...

Hey, guys, it's L. for just a minute.

Saw where you were asking about J.s fall. She stepped on a mat that was close to the door and lost her balance, coming down on her hip and knee. She's ok, just a little scrape and soreness. We took a bag of cat toys and food for the kitties there. (there has been a HUGE amount of kittens dropped off this past two months and they needed donations.)

The cats and the dogs were so adorable, and I wish we could have brought home one, but the lease at the apts won't allow more than 2 cats. We wanted to grab up a little black and white kitten there and run out the door screaming "mine, mine, mine!"

Hope everyone is doing good. Talk to you later.

Love,
L.

Anonymous said...

Remember how Frank twittered about him having to take Xanax because he had trouble sleeping? I'm not saying he abuses drugs but something has made him change and be angry and i just wondered if maybe if this might be causing his problem.

Side affects of Xanax
■unusual risk-taking behavior, decreased inhibitions, no fear of danger;
■depressed mood, thoughts of suicide or hurting yourself;
■hyperactivity, agitation, hostility, hallucinations;
■feeling light-headed, fainting;

elena said...

Good to see ya L

Tell J I'm glad to hear she's okay.


Anon you bring up an interesting thought. I've heard some disturbing things about Xanax too. I really hope that's not a problem for Frank.

Amyranth said...

There's enough problems with talented people taking drugs. I hope that's not the case with Frank.

L, glad to hear J will be alright. I trust everything is good over at Punk Central?

Anonymous said...

I hope i'm wrong. He just seems so angry. He went as far as posting that on twitter knowing it would be read by many.

elena said...

I hope you are wrong too anon. But I understand your concern.

Anonymous said...

Amyranth, I have to say and Im not trying to start anything, I assure you. I just feel you have very dark humor sometimes. So I do not find it too surprising that you don't think what Iero said was too harsh.

Most people do not share that dark humor however. For most people, even as a joke it so was far over the line.

That, and given his most prodominant public nature it was a complete 180. And it is very worrisome.

I must agree wholeheartedly with OPJ. It is only the PARENTS FAULT. Chilren, up to a certain age, only know (and exist as) what they are taught. Considering that he claimed they were toddlers, they would still be fully under their parents influence. And while it is sometimes inappropriate to take small chilren to cinema, it is not illegal. And there is reason for that.

Some children behave just fine. And some parents just want to have a moment of enjoyment too. To suggest otherwise, for either, is quite ridiculous.

I hope he is not suffering from substance abuse, deppression, etc. But I cannot deny it would explain his behavior lately. I hope not, however.

Good day to you ladies.

Anonymous said...

Anon i have a dark humor but what he said at the end was even harsh for me.

Anonymous said...

*runs in


hugs mayo

hugs ss


runs out*

Amyranth said...

Amyranth, I have to say and Im not trying to start anything, I assure you. I just feel you have very dark humor sometimes. So I do not find it too surprising that you don't think what Iero said was too harsh.

I didn't find it too harsh, but also not too surprising(referring to Frank's reaction). Like I said, there are days where I hear a screaming, shrieking child and I want to put myself out of my misery.

The part that I do not understand, and this doesn't relate to Frank at all, is why these parents ignore these children in these situations. Screaming babies especially, because you can tell the baby wants SOMETHING. A bottle, a fresh diaper, a cuddle, ANYTHING.

And the parents are content to stroll around in a public place with a baby that is screaming itself blue. God love the poor little thing, because I wonder if the parents do sometimes.

Kids who are older, and are able to articulate aren't in the same group. That's when a parent really needs to step in and let the child know that the behaviour is not acceptable, and generally they don't. I can understand ignoring things like whining, but when your child is out and out misbehaving (like kicking fishtanks at pet stores) and you act like it's not your child, people around you feel disrespected. Nobody, clearly, is going to get up and insist that you and your child leave, but they're not going to argue for you to stay if someone offers to show you the door.

*throws her hands up in the air*

Oh, I don't know. Maybe someday, when I have kids....

Anonymous said...

And the parents are content to stroll around in a public place with a baby that is screaming itself blue
---------------------------------

Unfortunately, I have seen this firsthand. About a few months ago, I was walking through the grocery store late night when I was passing through the pet food section and saw a baby about 2 or 3 years old shrieking. I mean, really shrieking. To the point that I overheard nearby customers saying that they wanted the dad(who was pushing the food cart) to shut him up.

I'm so used to hearing children cry and throw tantrums in public places, but damn, that one right there takes the cake.

Even I was like 'Get that kid to shut up'

Amyranth said...

I'm takin off! Dad's bugging me for his time online, so I'll see you guys around tomorrow!

Have a great night guys!

Anonymous said...

Goodnight amy

Anonymous said...

That's when a parent really needs to step in and let the child know that the behaviour is not acceptable, and generally they don't. I can understand ignoring things like whining, but when your child is out and out misbehaving (like kicking fishtanks at pet stores) and you act like it's not your child, people around you feel disrespected. Nobody, clearly, is going to get up and insist that you and your child leave, but they're not going to argue for you to stay if someone offers to show you the door.


Well said Amy. A little personal and parental responsibility please. Some respect for the other paying customers.

I'm sure FI wasn't the only one in that theater thinking thoughts like that. The other people just don't have as many twitter followers and as many people claiming to really know them to be shocked, appalled and disappointed by what they said.

Anonymous said...

I always thought the part where the wolf eats Red Riding Hoods Grandmother was disgusting.

Anonymous said...

I don't know...What does she look like.

Anonymous said...

She must have tasted good. Too bad the wolf didn't remember to chew his food.

mya said...

Hi!

Frank...
Yep, he's human...
He snaps just like anyone else.

mya said...

Public Enemies starts TOMORROW!

Anonymous said...

I thought the way Gretel escaped the witch and freed her brother was genius.


But Gretel saw what she was up to, and said: "I don't know how to. How do I get inside?"

"Goose, Goose!" cried the witch angrily, "the oven is big enough--why, look, I can even get in myself," and she scrambled up and stuck her head in the oven. Then Gretel gave her a tremendous push, so that she fell right in, and Gretel shut the door and fastened the bolt. Oh, then she began to howl in the most dreadful way imaginable, but Gretel ran away, and the wicked witch burned to death miserably.

Anonymous said...

Public Enemies looks good.

toujours said...

that's not my favorite fairy tale, but i did always think the way hansel used a chicken bone to disguise the fact that he was plump was clever.

mya said...

Hi, TJ!
How are you?

toujours said...

hello mya. :)

i'm doing pretty good, how about you? do you have plans for the fourth?

Anonymous said...

I thought the way Gretel escaped the witch and freed her brother was genius.

Thats what she gets for looking for a hot meal!! That Bitch!!!

mya said...

We usually go to my sister-in-law's lakehouse. What about you? What are you doing?

Anonymous said...

What is your favorite fairy tale Toujours? Mya? Anons? Mayo?

mya said...

My favorite fairy tale... Hmm...
Snow White, maybe... Or, Beauty and the Beast...

toujours said...

a lakehouse sounds like fun, mya -- i'm going to be staying in town, supposedly there's a riverside concert. should be fun, i hope!

anon, there's lots of fairy tales that i like...there's the russian tale with the baba yaga and her house on chicken feet and fence of bones. i think that's the one where the heroine sees three horses riding through the forest, dawn, noon and night. alwasy thought that was cool.

and the original tale of snow white and rose red is neat too -- how they go along with the bear, and all the different things they do.

alot of really good fantasy is based on fairy tales, or a mixture of elements from them, too.

mya said...

The Riverside Concert sounds definitely sounds like fun!

Anonymous said...

What is your favorite fairy tale
-----------------------------------

Me, I don't have a favorite fairy tale, although I love reading the Greek myth of Selene and Endymion

Hi mya and tj

mya said...

Hi, BC! What are you doing for July 4th?

Anonymous said...

My Favorite :D

Anonymous said...

July 4th? Let's see...I reckon there's gonna be swimming and a barbeque. It's been a tradition for the past few years.

What's your plans mya?

Anonymous said...

For The Lovely People Of Denmark

Anonymous said...

That's a nice picture there anon

toujours said...

hi bc. :)

i clicked on the first link, just quick to see what it was for, so i'm guessing the second is the little mermaid statue? that'a an excellent fairy tale, the best ones are always about sacrifice, somehow.

i have to go to bed now, though! nice talking with you all, anon and mya and bc. see you guys later!

sweet dreams.

mya said...

G'nite, TJ!
I gotta be going to bed myself...
Bye, BC and Anon!

Anonymous said...

Goodnight mya sweet dreams.

I'm not staying, so I'll be saying my goodnights as well. Goodnight tj, anon, ergo(when you arrive)

Sweet dreams.

toujours said...

mayo,

it's funny that the subject of fairy tales came up tonight, i had just been thinking about finding some of my old favorites to read to renew my creative spirit.

there are so many layers in fairy tales -- poeple tend to dismiss them as fluffy bedtime tales, but that's the unfortunate result of victorian rewrites and disneyfication. the real fairy tales are darker, deeper, and entwined with all the things beautiful and blighted that live in our hearts. i've always read them, even as a little girl, they gave me a love of the mystery that lies at the center of things, those fears and hopes that have been with humans ever since we started drawing on cave walls.

i don't think of fairy tales as fluffy things at all, rather, they are the foundation on which so much of what we are rests. they are solid, ephemeral truths.

well, that's how i've always felt about them, anyway. i always felt sorry for the kids whose parents thought they were doing a good thing by raising them with "the truth", not allowing them the fantasy and mystery that makes up the majority of a child's life. handicapping them, more like.

i want to write fairy tales, i'd like my stories to be as layered as fairy tales, i hope they'll draw on the depths of the human heart even though they will be about elves and other fluffy things.



well, that's for tomorrow's to-do list, then, i guess. *grin*


good night, mayo. i hope you're well, i hope your life is rich with the stories that connect you to the deeps of your own heart.

Anonymous said...

Beauty and the beast is one of my favs too. Mythology is great. Splash is cute.

The Denmark mermaid looks so lonely.

Anonymous said...

Goodnite BC.
Goodnite Mya.
Goodnite Toujours.
Goodnite anons.

elena said...

Mayo

Just a quick note because I’m not feeling very well this evening. Anyway I was thinking about something and I thought I’d run it by you. Okay, I thought it would be really nice if tomorrow you looked around your world and found something that really makes you happy. Could be anything. But take that memory, hold it close to your heart and then immortalize it any way you choose. Maybe a drawing, a poem or a story. I’m not asking you to do this for us I want you to do this for you. Believe me, it’s important to acknowledge the things that bring us joy and not to take them for granted because you just never know how long they will be with us. Memories fade but if you have done something to make it permanent…..well, I just think it would be a good thing.

Take care

Night Mayo

Elena

ergoproxy said...

Damn have I missed everyone?

well Hannah Montana was fun, heck it was predictable and the acting was as it is in the series, but I enjoyed it, and the kids of course thought it was fantastic.
Haven't seen that many Hannah Montana shirts in one place !!

sweet dreams to everyone going to bed

10:09PM said...

Amyranth, thank you for hearing me out and not taking offense.

As you said about the problimatic children, God love them as it appears their parents do not. This is EXACTLY the honest problem. When parents don't care enough to be there for their children it puts the resposiblity of dealing with those poor neglected kids on the shoulders of those around them.

If you don't want to take care of your own children, you ought not to have any in the first place.

I am surprised that no one else in theatre said anything to their parents. Or complained to the front desk. The most strenuous effort Iero could have put out (aside from just taking it and not enjoying the movie) would have been to just get up, explain the situation to the front desk and gotten free tickets to another showing.

I myself have done just that. And we got better seats at the next showing. It was annoying to have to do so, but we didn't feel cheated in any way. It seems such a trivial thing to speak so harshly about. It happens to everyone.

Being a fan for a long time now, it does worry me that something may be very wrong with the men in that band. Things just do not seem to be going well with them. Even GWay appears to have fallen back into drinking, with the Twitter party pictures.

Whatever is going on, I hope someone takes note of it and tries to help them (however they may need it) before something bad happens. Being affonted or worried is one thing. But there other things that can happen, that people cannot come back from. I hope that won't be the case with these men.

elena said...

Mayo

I'm still awake. Stupid attic fan is too loud tonight. Oh well. I was thinking about what I asked you in the goodnight and trying to decide what I would immortalize (that is if I had any talent). I think I would try to remember the early morning light on the pond. Yeah I know that sounds strange but somehow when I look at it..it seems to promise a new start to the day. A new beginning. Another chance to start over and make things better.

Go to bed Elena...I have to yell at myself sometimes.

Night again, Mayo.

ergoproxy said...

elena GO TO NED!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

ergoproxy said...

NED?

lol I only just saw that

elena

GO TO NED,AND THEN GO TO BED!!!!!!!

ergoproxy said...

10.09 it is a sad reflection on society that a number of parents do not step up to the responsibility of parenthood. It is hard, it is inconvenient, it is 24/7, you cannot do nothing, just because you don't want to miss out, you are tired, you are stressed etc.

There seem to be parents who don't have the skills required, or choose for whatever reason not to take the steps they need, and that is a great shame as children learn from the example of their parents so what will the upcoming generations be like?

It's a full time job, the rest of your life and people need to be very aware of that, and times and good times

people have their own responsibilities to, and there are ways to deal with things.
Anger and frustration will dog everyone at times, but lashing out never really solves anything and the penchant for doing so then blaming "........ rage" has been a concern of mine for a long time. Why does it happen, there are many reasons. Perhaps it is a bad day, perhaps a deeper problem.
Whatever it is in anyone's case it is better to think before acting, and whatever issues are in anyone's life I hope they can work them out.



mayo
I am running a bit late tonight so only a quickie, I'll tell you about some other stuff tomorrow
much love EP xx

SS
hope you're good, I can't hang and type much tonight, so have a fantastic Wednesday
lotsa love EP xx

goodnight blogbelieve see you in my morning
♥xx♥

ergoproxy said...

It's a full time job, the rest of your life and people need to be very aware of that, BAD times and times and good times


not "and"

Anonymous said...

Frank Iero did not say anything bad about the toddlers' parents. He called very young children "prick faced" and suggested that the world would have been better off had their moms gotten abortions.

Should the parents have taken those screaming children out of the theater? Yes. I've done that myself on occasion when my children were small. But they didn't and that was not the childrens' fault, it was the parents.

What Frank said was unconscionable. I don't care how annoyed he was, nor how much you like him.

Anonymous said...

unconscionable?

I've heard that word used to describe serial killers, rapists and child molesters, the worst violent criminals out there.

I hardly think what FI said on his twitter update was unconscionable.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...
Frank Iero did not say anything bad about the toddlers' parents. He called very young children "prick faced" and suggested that the world would have been better off had their moms gotten abortions.



Have that problem with everybody who suggests that the world would have been better off had their moms gotten abortions.

Call them all unconscionable for saying things like crawl back inside your mothers womb and get yourself aborted

Just askin'.

Anonymous said...

I'm sure those toddlers have twitter accounts and read what he said and were horrified by it. Their mom does too and she knew he was talking about her and her kids. They'll all be scarred for life thanks to FI.

Anonymous said...

un⋅con⋅scion⋅a⋅ble

–adjective
1. not guided by conscience; unscrupulous.
2. not in accordance with what is just or reasonable: unconscionable behavior.
3. excessive; extortionate: an unconscionable profit.

Just so you know.

It's not a word reserved for serial killers. Don't they teach vocabulary in schools these days?

Anonymous said...

Go right ahead and take up for every single thing that Frank and the rest of MCR do. They are gods who are above reproach after all.

Anonymous said...

Have that problem with everybody who suggests that the world would have been better off had their moms gotten abortions.

Call them all unconscionable for saying things like crawl back inside your mothers womb and get yourself aborted

Just askin'.


Actually, yes.

Any more questions?

Anonymous said...

No. They're not gods. They're people.

I hope they teach vocabulary in school these days. Do you watch the news and see all the unconscionable acts being described or do you just watch Nickelodeon and the disney channel?

Anonymous said...

Yes 9:43. Can you point me to the comment where you used the word unconscionable to describe a person who said something like crawl back inside your mothers womb and get yourself aborted here

at this blog

prior to today?

Anonymous said...

The court declares a 30 minute recess while you search for that comment.

Anonymous said...

Not interested in what has been said or done on this blog regarding other comments. It is not relevant to what I had to say. It's only relevant in your mind.

Sorry.

Anonymous said...

Furthermore, the world does not revolve around Kapunua. Only yours.

Anonymous said...

This place would be perfect practice for trial lawyers.

Anonymous said...

Not really, considering that most of the people here have problems sticking to the subject at hand.

Cries of "Objection! Irrelevant," followed by, "Sustained," would be written constantly.

Anonymous said...

LOL 10:49. Only in your mind and her mind.

If you're going to judge FI for what he said on twitter you damn well better be prepared for like unconscionable acts to be mentioned and presented as evidence.

It's the damn hypocrisy. Unbelievable.

Anonymous said...

Are you mentally unstable, 11:03? What on earth makes you think I give a good goddamn about Kapunua? I do not know her nor care what she thinks or says.

It seems to me that you're the one who keeps bringing her up.

Anonymous said...

I object to that comment 11:00.

You're leading the jury.

The witness lead themself to irrelevance.

Anonymous said...

An insanity defense 11:06. I think it's working. I'm halfway convinced you are.

Anonymous said...

And lol at you for thinking the word unconscionable is such a horrific insult. Look it up in the dictionary. Oh wait. You don't have to. I posted the definition earlier.

If Kapunua or anyone else said that a child should have been aborted by its mother before it was born, I and many, many other people would consider that unconscionable.

Now go ahead and spout some more of your nonsense. You're only making yourself look foolish.

Anonymous said...

Court will be adjourned for a 4 hour lunch. The professional psychiatric expert witnesses should be here by then.

Anonymous said...

Take a deep breath 11:11. We have oxygen in the break room if you need some.

Anonymous said...

You're not bothering me, 11:18. If I needed oxygen it would be from laughing so hard at you.

Anonymous said...

Next she'll offer you a black rose 11:20. I think it's voluptuosity. She makes about as much sense.

Anonymous said...

Next she'll offer you a black rose 11:20. I think it's voluptuosity. She makes about as much sense.

Lol, I hadn't thought of that. It certainly would explain a lot. Not knowing the definition of unconscionable, mental instability, disregarding all logic, bringing up completely irrelevant subjects...

I think you're right.

Anonymous said...

I think the person who is so obsessed with Kapunua is Andrea. She's still got sand in her vagina because of how she got pwned here. Notice how Andrea got brought up out of the blue just recently. I don't think that was a coincidence.

Anonymous said...

Honestly? I don't know anything about Andrea and I don't care. Just like I don't care about Kapunua. My comment had nothing to do with anyone other than Frank Iero.

But anyway, as much fun as this has been, I have things to do. Have a nice day here in play court.

Anonymous said...

el oh el

Anonymous said...

Unconscionable

Unusually harsh and shocking to the conscience; that which is so grossly unfair that a court will proscribe it.

When a court uses the word unconscionable to describe conduct, it means that the conduct does not conform to the dictates of conscience. In addition, when something is judged unconscionable, a court will refuse to allow the perpetrator of the conduct to benefit.

Unconscionable conduct is also found in acts of Fraud and deceit, where the deliberate Misrepresentation of fact deprives someone of a valuable possession. Whenever someone takes unconscionable advantage of another person, the action may be treated as criminal fraud or the civil action of deceit.

No standardized criteria exist for measuring whether an action is unconscionable. A court of law applies its conscience, or moral sense, to the facts before it and makes a subjective judgment.


The U.S. Supreme Court's "shock the conscience test" in rochin v. california, 342 U.S. 165, 72 S. Ct. 205, 96 L. Ed. 183 (1952), demonstrates this approach. The Court ruled that pumping the stomach of a criminal suspect in search of drugs offends "those canons of decency and fairness which express the notions of justice of English-speaking peoples." The Court relied on these general historical and moral traditions as the basis for ruling unconstitutional an unconscionable act.



Based on the evidence presented
This court finds the defendant not guilty of an unconscionable act.

Court adjourned.

Arguments will probably continue.

Anonymous said...

Mayo's is a court of law now?

I don't believe the anon was referring to the legal definition of the word, but if you have nothing better to do with your time than spend all day looking up legal documents where it has been used then I feel kind of sorry for you.

Are you the same anon who spent a couple of days bolding the word appauling (sic)? It must be some type of obsessive compulsive disorder. They probably have medication for that you know.

Anonymous said...

On another note, Kings of Leon drummer Nathan Followill told fans on his Twitter that the band was taping their third sold-out show at London's O2 last night for a DVD they will be releasing later, probably this year.

KOL anons already know this, I'm sure, but I thought Wendy, Emily and PP would be interested.

Anonymous said...

Yet 3:16, here you sit, commenting just the same..

And, me too. ;)

I only felt the need to tell 11:27 AM, that they are vulgar. And I find it interesting that a vulgar person would be so offended by someone else's vulgarity.

Huh.


*Yay for KOL!

Anonymous said...

Sounded a bit Kapuanuesque to me

ergoproxy said...

good morning!!

another foggy morning in the great land of Oz :]

really great news from KOL

and now to my own obsession -MUSE!!!

they are in Italy doing interviews and how cool is it to find you have your own church!!
church of DOM

now only 10 weeks to album release!!!!!!!

mya said...

Hi, Ergo!

ergoproxy said...

hey hello mya!

how are you?

Anonymous said...

Actually, it was Mya who first brought up Kapunua in this thread.

As usual.

That hate-on she has is big. And wet. And purple.

mya said...

Dating at my age, or even the idea of dating, is such a... bitch...
Like the old saying goes, all the good ones are already gone...

In the past 5-10 years, I have just found it (looking for someone to date) to be a waste of time. But, as a normal human being, I still gravitate toward finding someone to connect to...

What I'm leading up to is...

I met someone at the beach last week, that I really found interesting and seemed to be a really nice guy...

We spent one afternoon, chatting and just talking, y'know? He was, like I said, interesting, seemed nice, and not too bad in the looks department either, so I gave him my cell phone number.

He called me the next day wanting to make a "date" to go dancing "or something" that night. Well, I told him that I needed to stay close to my daughter and that I'd rather go someplace nearby. That was fine with him...

He called late in the afternoon, apologizing because he was going to have to cancel. He said that one of his co-workers needed him to step in and work for him, and since he had, in the past, had the same guy stand in for him, he felt he needed to do that. I told him not to worry, that I completely understood, and maybe some other time...

So... He continues to call me, even after I came home from the beach, saying he would like to see me again and starts talking about coming to visit me. All fine and good, right?

Well, I send him links, via email, to some hotels this way... He emails back asking for more information, etc. Then, he asks if I would be able to spend the night with him...

Yes, I'm a grown woman... Yes, I'm unattached... Yes, I would like to have a relationship... Yes, I've had sex before...

But, does that mean I should jump in bed with someone I just met?!

I emailed him back and told him that I would NOT be spending the night with him, that I barely knew him, and that I prefer to take things slow and get to know each other...

He emailed me back today... This is what he said:
"YOU BARELY KNOW ME" EXCUSE ME, I THOUGHT THAT WE SHARED WITH EACH OTHER, EVERYTHING ABOUT OURSELVES, PAST AND PRESENT IN THIS LAST WEEK THAT WE'D BEEN COMMUNICATING WITH
EACH OTHER. WHAT IS IT THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW IN ORDER TO TAKE THIS RELATIONSHIP TO THE NEXT LEVEL. I'VE TOLD YOU MORE ABOUT MYSELF THAN I'VE TOLD ANYONE ELSE IN A LONG TIME, AND I THOUGHT THAT YOU DID AS WELL. I FEEL LIKE WE HAVE KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR EVER, AND THAT ONLY HAPPENS A FEW TIMES IN A LIFE TIME AS I SEE IT. I THINK THAT WE HAVE A CHEMISTRY, A CONNECTION AND DON'T WANT TO HAVE DETRIMENTAL LIMITATIONS PLACED UPON WHAT CAN BE A GREAT EXPERIENCE FOR BOTH OF US.


Now, ladies... I ask you... Is there any damn wonder why I don't even bother anymore to find someone to date? This is the type of shit that I just don't have time for...

For first reaction (you all know me by now!) was to shoot an email back saying, "FUCK OFF!" But, after careful consideration, I responded:

We spent only one afternoon together and have only spoken on the phone a handful of times. There is still a lot we don’t know about each other.

The afternoon we spent together was very enjoyable and I felt that you were a nice and interesting person. I wanted to get to know you better, so I gave you my number.

To me, “the next level” of our relationship should mean spending more time together and getting to know each other. I am not the type of person that jumps into a physical relationship right off the bat. To me, that is not what a “true relationship” is about. In fact, that is a “casual relationship” and one that will not last.

If you don’t understand or can’t respect my feelings on that, then I will be very disappointed.

mya said...

So, ladies... I'm asking for your opinion in this matter. He has not responded yet, but that doesn't surprise me because he is not sitting at his computer all day.

Was my response OK? Or, should I have just gone with my gut reaction and said, "FUCK YOU!"?

mya said...

Or, "FUCK OFF!

elena said...

Mya

How many times have you actually talked to this guy?

elena said...

Oh crap....new page


ERGOOOOOOOOOOO

(that's what it should say) LOL

mya said...

Is anyone else here?

mya said...

Hi, Elena!

Like I said, we spent about 4-5 hours talking one afternoon and then have only talked 4 or 5 time on the phone.

I'm a very cautious and suspicious person... I'm envisioning someone that might take me off, cut my body parts into small pieces, etc.

ergoproxy said...

mya sounds like he had one thing on his mind and thought you would oblige
I don't think sex is appropriate without some "getting to know you" time
some people play it much more casually and it alos seems he feels that emailing and conversing via a computer is a valid alternative to face to face meeting

I don't think you responded poorly, and your response shows a bit more maturity than his to you, which to me sounds incredibly cliched and more like a juvenile attempt to make you feel guilty about it
he should put his big boy pants on.

mya said...

Oh, and congrats for being on top!

ergoproxy said...

hello elena!!!!

mya said...

That's how I feel too, Ergo! I'm just waiting for him to come back with, "You're acting like a young girl!"

«Oldest ‹Older   1201 – 1400 of 4856   Newer› Newest»